Wow this is the most disturbing bit of rape culture I’ve seen all day
This is so fucking repulsive this is seriously a fucking tip sheet for abusers holy fuck no
MAKE SURE THEY CRY AND THEN GIVE THEM ALCOHOL AFTERWARD SO THEY THINK YOU STILL LOVE THEM this is fucking disgusting what the FUCK
I think I’m gonna be sick
"Make sure it ends in tears." That’s not love.
"aftercare" is literally grooming your abused, emotionally traumatised partner into a state of comfort so that you can abuse them again
i hate this world
"Rape culture" "abuse" "trauma" ???????? ?? ? ?? ? ???? ? ?
Are yoU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!!? This is a guideline for couples who ENJOY spanking in their relationship, for a wide variety of reasons, like the fact that it’s a KINK!!!!!! IT’S CONSIDERED A PART OF BDSM CULTURE!!!! Notice the very first image says "CONSENTING ADULTS ONLY!!!" THIS IS NOT ABUSE, THIS IS FETISH!!!
THE “AFTERCARE” THAT YOU ARE BITCHING ABOUT IS A **N.E.C.E.S.S.A.R.Y.** PART OF ANY SCENES OR PLAYS THAT A COUPLE PARTICIPATES IN!!! IT’S LITERALLY WHERE YOU TAKE CARE OF AND LOVE ON YOUR PARTNER THAT WAS PUT THROUGH ANY STRESSING ACTS DURING THE SCENE!!!! IT’S A VERY IMPORTANT THING THAT EVERY HEALTHY BDSM RELATED SCENARIO SHOULD END IN!!!!!!!!
OH MY GOD, CAN SOMEONE THAT HAS A MORE EXTENSIVE KNOWLEDGE OF ALL THIS EXPLAIN IT IN MORE DETAIL FOR ME PLEASE?? I AM TOO ANGRY TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO DO IT!!!!!!
Not adults that have no desire or want to engage in these acts. People have sadist and masochistic streaks. They’re aroused by this sort of give and take for one reason or another.
They seek it out.
They don’t have it done to them. They have it done with them.
They consent. That’s the OPPOSITE of rape culture, if you didn’t know that just by the use of words.
In addition, the bit with the ‘drinks’ is CLEARLY tea. Not alcohol, dumb ass. You’ve obviously never seen a tea kettle before. People obviously keep whiskey in tea kettles.
The process of spanking in a scene completed with aftercare. The post is directed to those who are already familiar with the kink and culture safety guidelines.
Ones that start with “discussion”. They talk about each of their needs. They talk about what they are or are not comfortable with. They discuss safe words that will immediately stop a scene or what sort of indications will be given that one or the other participant (both spanker and spankee in this example) is no longer comfortable with the scene. There’s a lot of trust building before either participant even BEGINS a scene like this.
You know what a rapist/abuser doesn’t do? All of the above. They do not talk about it. They do not define limits, they just beat the shit out of their victim. They do not care what the victim thinks or feels or what they aren’t comfortable with. They don’t give one twatting fuck so long as they get to be in ABSOLUTE TOTAL BRUTAL UNCARING AND INATTENTIVE POWER of situation. Which is not a relationship. It is not consent. It’s just hurting someone else to feel empowered like weak little pissants they are in the rest of the world.
In a consenting scene the participants are very attentive and very in control. Even when the submissive party is relinquishing it. They choose to give up that power. They choose to trust the dominant party. They choose when to stop giving them power and/or trusting them.
A victim chooses nothing. The abuser does not care.
The opposite of what is going on in a scene.
In addition, the aftercare is also the pinnacle of the OPPOSITE of abusive relationships.
Aftercare is about communication. About giving a shit that you just spanked this person to the point of vulnerability and tears. About continuing to express that you love them. Genuinely.
That’s not what an abuser does. An abuser leaves you to feel like trash and comes back after watching you suffer a bit for their satisfaction to bring you bullshit material items and/or bullshit hugs and kisses. Maybe some fucking excuse about what they did to you and how it’s all your fault. How no one would treat you so good.
That’s not aftercare. That’s apologizing until you let them beat the snot out of you again.
Aftercare is about talking and love. And making sure you’re taken care of and that you’re safe and nothing that you did other than your CONSENT brought about that spanking.
Not about ‘conditioning you’ to take more abuse from some fuck who only thinks they love you and want to own your as a pretty thing they get to stick a dick/dildo into and show to fam during social events.
What you think and what is are two different things.
You clearly have no understanding of what each are and what each are defined as.
Do more research and remove your righteous bullshit blinders while you do.